All about swing with Dr. Swing, part 5.

Beginner questions

If you are new to swing, you probably have many questions that you want answered and there is much that you are curious about. So let's go through some of the most frequently asked questions here.

If I'm not pretty enough?

We all look different and like different things. Most of us are completely ordinary people who have everyday looks and bodies, but everything has its charm and allure and we all turn on different looks and bodies. There is one for us, as it is usually called.

Women find it easier than men to spruce themselves up. Sexy underwear, makeup, high heels, etc. are attributes that highlight the woman in a beneficial way. Then you should never forget the twinkle in the eye and a smile can do wonders and not to mention charm. These things have nothing to do with looks but can probably be so attractive.

Do I need to look like a pornstar?

Absolutely not. Swingers come in all its forms. Big breasts or small breasts, well equipped or less well equipped. Many swingers think that good technique is more important than how certain body parts look.

What happens if I am left alone?

At parties you will probably see couples walking around together and meeting other couples. But many couples like to invite one or more single men to socialize with the woman at the center. 

Some couples split up and they meet others on separate sides. It is also common for the woman to meet a single man while her husband is passive and watches. Yes, there are all possible variants.

So you as a single person don't have to feel alone, hang out at the bar and sooner or later someone will join you.

Will others want to seduce my partner?

Yes, and can you blame them ;). It's about sex, nothing about love or other feelings. It's part of the game when making connections and to see if liking arises to give each other glances, maybe light body touch to see how the other reacts, give some compliment.

If these are answered, you move on, and if these are not answered, a golden rule is to accept this and try to continue with others you find interesting.

Should you feel unsure about your partner that someone seems too interesting for your partner, be honest about this so you can work it out.

How can I get my partner interested in swinging?

You should never foist on your partner something that you are interested in that he does not want at all. But you can nicely bring up the topic for discussion and see how your partner feels.
It may be that your partner has exactly the same thoughts as you but has not dared to ask.

You should definitely not nag and get your partner to agree. Instead, ask what else you can do. Maybe start by inviting an extra single man or woman, a couples date without changing partners or you going to a party just to experience the atmosphere and feel the mood and see if this might be something for you. Start cautiously and if you feel safe, move on. 

Masquerade parties to hide one's identity, do they exist?

These are masquerade swingers parties are mostly something you see in movies, but they do happen.

In the swinger world, everyone is careful to be discreet, what happens at the party stays at the party. This is an unwritten rule. Everyone who is there is there for the same reason. Some are more open than others. their swinger life while others are very discreet due to work or other reasons.

Are swingers newbies?

No, swingers are ordinary people who like sex maybe a little more than others.

And who doesn't have sex with everything and everyone. Like if you like to dance and go out to a night club one night, you don't dance with everyone in the night club even though you like to dance. Same here as at a swingers party, it's a glance and you invite someone who can then say yes or no to dancing.

Can I say No?

Absolutely yes, a no is a no and must always be respected. It's a golden rule in swinging. Anyone who can't accept a no will pretty quickly have to leave. 

Are swingers shady types?

Should a shady person appear who does not fit in at all and follows the unwritten or written rules that exist, this person will quickly be made aware that they are not welcome. However, this happens very rarely. 

Is the swinger lifestyle perfect?

No, but what is perfect in this life.

As a beginner, you will certainly make small mistakes at the beginning, but we have all been new and have learned.

Take it easy in the beginning, sit back and watch others and see how it goes.