How to contact swingers?
Even in the normal dating world, it can be nerve-wracking to make contact with someone you find interesting. What to say, do I look good today, what do I do if I get rejected.
In the swinger world, it gets even more complicated as it's not just about you, but also about your partner. It's four people, if it's couples meeting couples, who have to like each other and the chemistry has to be right. Should you be straight forward or take it easy, how do you do it in a swingers club or on a contact page for swingers.
The good news is that swingers are welcome people and you have one thing in common, the interest in swingers.
Here is some good advice:
If you are at a swingers club or private swingers party.
- Wait until you make eye contact.
When you enter the room, play it safe even if it's your first time at a swingers party. Scan the room and the people in the room. Smile and say hello, check with your partner who she/he finds interesting among the others.
2. Keep it simple, say hello.
Walk up, say hello, introduce yourself.
If they are not interested, don't worry, there are more swingers at the party.
In the worst case, you have your partner to be with if no one seems interested.
3. Start a conversation.
Talk about anything, don't start talking about sex right away.
Many people want to be somewhat anonymous, so not too many direct questions such as where they work, but better to ask what type of job they have.
4. Address your swinger's lifestyle.
When the conversation flows and both parties seem to like each other, it's time to start talking about the lifestyle that is the reason you are at the club or party. Do you often visit the club, other clubs etc.
5. Tell us what you are looking for at the club/party.
What do you like, what do you want to do.
When the chemistry is right and the atmosphere is building and you are ready for games, invite the other couple to one of the playrooms.
How to contact non-swingers you are interested in.
What do you do if you meet some non-swingers that you want to invite to the swinger world.
First, are you thinking clearly?
If you are sober, you interpret the signals correctly.
Once you reveal your secret swinger side, it's hard to take it back.
Are there people in your circle of acquaintances that you meet in other contexts?