A beginner's guide for those who are thinking about becoming a Swinger
Having sex with other people can be really sexy - if you both agree
Living as a swinger and the whole swinger lifestyle is nothing new at all.
The concept of swingers and swinging has been around for many, many years. The big difference is that people have started to talk more openly about it.
If you and your partner are interested in exploring your more adventurous side, you are probably looking for a way to start this journey. in this article I will try to help you take the first step into the mysterious world of swingers.
So - how should you behave if you are a new swinger couple in the swinger lifestyle?
Here are 7 things you need to discuss and do before you start swinging.
1. Think about why you want to start swinging
The absolute first step is to open up and tell your partner about all your kinky thoughts. When you as a couple decide to embark on this lifestyle, it is very important that both parties openly discuss their feelings for each other and what they hope to get out of becoming a swinger. There can be many reasons for embarking into the swinger life. Maybe you both want to experience sex with one or more new partners or maybe you simply want to spice up your sex life with new adventures and then sex in the same room as others can be an exciting moment But if you try to repair a broken relationship you will almost certainly be disappointed . The swinger life is for couples who are secure in each other and who have a stable relationship to build on.
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2. How do you want to test swinging?
There are many ways to test the swinger life. The easiest is to register on a site like Bodycontact.com (or similar) and search for private swinger parties. If you feel you can afford it, you can jump straight to luxury cruises aimed at swingers. The choice is entirely yours, it depends a lot on your kinks, your budget and what level you want to put the adventure on.
3. Set clear rules
If you are a newcomer to this world, it is very important to set clear rules together before jumping into it all. for example, if you are going to a swingers party and one of you wants to go home early, is it okay for the other to stay?
Other rules can be things like “we always stick to each other and enjoy being watched”, “we have sex with others, but only in the same room”, “sex is okay, but kissing is too intimate so we kiss only each other"
There are tons of variations here and therefore it is extremely important that you talk through everything before you enter the wonderful world of swingers.
4. Build strong self-confidence
If you both really want this, it is important to work on self-esteem & self-confidence. The world of swingers is not much different from the ordinary world. People sense who is exciting, has self-confidence and a lovely aura.
many swinger couples use aliases or "artist names" when they swing and that's totally fine!
5. Consider meeting swingers online first.
Before you embark on the swinger life, it can be good to explore whether it is something for you by talking to like-minded people online, without meeting requirements (unless you really want to, of course). The web is full of dating sites for swingers and it's easy to find like-minded people. Simply a light version of swinging. Skype can be a very exciting medium if you are not ready to make that physical contact right away.
6. Plan to meet up
Once you have found that couple/girl/guy that you feel you want to continue with, decide to meet, preferably in a public place such as a bar/restaurant or café. The first time you meet, it can be good to have a so-called "chemistry meeting", i.e. you are clear that there will not be sex, but you are only seeing each other to get to know each other and see if there is a mutual interest in going further. Of course, it can happen that you move on already at your first chemistry meeting, but in that case it's just a bonus.
7. Find an exciting swingers club
There are several swingers clubs in Scandinavia, search online and choose one that you think is exciting. This could be a perfect opportunity for you to take a weekend together with the hotel, spa and swingers club. Just focus on each other and on enjoying yourself.
before you go to the club, be sure to check what applies if you are there for the first time. Most clubs want you to arrive a little earlier and get a clothed tour of the venue. The staff are usually very professional, friendly and make you feel at home in these exciting environments. You will then also find out which rules apply to a current club. Common to all clubs and to the entire swinger world is always that "no is no". No one should stand for something they don't want to stand for.
Entering the world of swingers is not particularly difficult, but communication is the key here, decide on a clear plan of action and clear rules and follow them to the letter. Once you notice that your relationship is not negatively affected by this, you can always renegotiate the rules and set new goals together.
In order to have a successful relationship as a swinger, it is very important that you discuss your desires, kinks, fantasies completely openly and without prejudice. Once you get here, you will discover that this world has so much to offer. open-minded people who are open-minded, nice and who are sure to become friends for life.
Remember that this should be a fun adventure for you together.
Good luck and happy swinging!
