All about swing with Dr. Swing, part 8.

Romance vs Lust

We all want a relationship with romance and swingers are no exception.

But swinging has nothing to do with romance, it is only about casual sex games with others who are also only looking for casual sex games.

Then get there with your partner and you go home with your partner and no one should worry that your partner will develop feelings for someone else.

Swingers are focused on casual sex with like-minded people, not romantic feelings. This also applies if you find another couple that you enjoy very much and want to see often.

Experienced swingers are well aware of this while new swingers may have a little difficulty distinguishing between romance and lust. And in the swinger world, they hate drama. Sex should be fun and lustful.

Single swingers are not as common as couples, but they do exist and are usually wonderful people. People who are rude and disrespectful usually don't last long in the swinger world. Singles swingers are also looking for casual sex with other like-minded people and not looking for the woman in their life although single swingers do get together.

Of course, the world of swingers is not completely problem-free and, as in the ordinary world, couples break up. Among non-swingers, separations/divorces are around 50%, and within swingers that figure tends to be somewhat lower. This is probably because swingers are good at communicating with each other and that swingers do not have the same need to be unfaithful due to boring sex life.

Three points to consider:

1. Have honest communication.

No one should take one for the team. Hurry slowly. One party may want more, but then let the other party set the pace.

2. Communication with outsiders must be joint.

When you write or otherwise have contact with others, let both parties take part in the communication. Avoid secrecy and surprises. 

3. Swing together.

Play in the same room so you can see each other instead of swinging in different rooms unless you're absolutely sure.